Leaving an abusive relationship is one of the bravest things a person can do. But once you’ve left, a new challenge begins, and that is starting again. Often, this means moving to a new town or even a completely new area, far from everything familiar. It can feel overwhelming, lonely, and scary. But it can also be the beginning of something hopeful – a life where you are safe, free, and in control.
At Juno, we’ve supported many women as they rebuild their lives in a new place. We want you to know that you’re not alone, and that it is possible to start again.
A Fresh Start and New Challenges
Moving to a new place often means leaving behind friends, family, schools, jobs, and support networks. You might feel isolated or unsure of who you can trust. Everyday things, like signing up at a GP surgery, finding a bus route, or shopping in unfamiliar shops, can feel like big hurdles.
It’s normal to feel scared or uncertain. You might feel guilty about leaving or anxious about the future. But we want to remind you: you did what you needed to do to stay safe. That is nothing to feel ashamed of, in fact, it’s incredibly courageous to move on.
Tips for Starting Again
Here are some small but powerful steps that can help you begin building a new life:
- Take things one day at a time. You don’t have to have it all figured out straight away.
- Get to know your new area gradually. Take short walks, find a local park or café, or visit the library.
- Reach out for support. You don’t have to go through this alone – there are people and services ready to help. Do a Google search to find community centres, local charities or meet-up groups that you could attend.
- Give yourself credit. Every step you take, no matter how small, is progress.
It’s okay if it doesn’t feel like “home” straight away. That feeling can come in time.
Building New Support Networks
Loneliness can be one of the hardest parts of starting over. But there are ways to find connection and community again. Some ideas include:
- Joining local women’s groups or craft classes
- Attending free community events or family activities
- Visiting your local children’s centre if you have young kids
- Asking your support worker about local services or drop-ins
- Contacting Women’s Aid in your area and asking about group activities.
At Juno, we also offer access to courses to help build confidence and connection. Many women tell us that speaking to others who’ve been through similar experiences makes a huge difference.
Healing Takes Time
Rebuilding your life is not a straight path and there may be days when things feel heavy. You may still carry emotional scars, feel anxious, or grieve what you’ve lost. That’s completely normal. Healing is not about forgetting, it’s about finding peace and strength in yourself, one day at a time.
We’re here to walk with you as you heal, grow, and find safety in your new life.
Final Thoughts
Starting again in a new place can feel overwhelming, but it can also be a powerful act of reclaiming your life. You’ve already taken an incredibly brave step and we’re here to support you with every step that follows. You are not alone, and your new beginning is full of hope and possibility.
Juno Support
Our helpline is open 24/7, 365 days a year. Our staff are friendly, supportive, and non-judgemental. Some are survivors themselves and truly understand what starting over feels like. Whatever you’re facing – we’re here for you.
Calls to our helpline are free from landlines and mobile phones within the UK and do not appear on itemised bills. There is no pressure and everything is confidential.
Helpline: 0808 800 0340
Sometimes our helpline is busy and you might not get through the first time, so please try again. We will always call you back if you leave a message stating it is safe to do so and if you leave us a safe contact number in your message.
If you are hearing impaired, text “Relay/NGT” to 18001 0808 800 0340. This option is available 24-hours a day, 365 days a year.
You can also email us on [email protected] 9 am – 9 pm.
Please note, we may not be able to respond to emails straight away, but will try to reply within 24 hours.
National Help
If you’re further afield, you could contact other charities like Women’s Aid, who have instant messaging and email contact on their website: https://www.womensaid.org.uk/
The National Domestic Abuse Helpline (0808 2000 247) also provide confidential support. They can help you make a safety plan, find safe housing, and access legal protections.
The deaf health charity Signhealth also runs a domestic abuse support service, DeafHope, using British Sign Language (BSL).
The Survivor’s Trust (for sexual abuse and assault support) – www.thesurvivorstrust.org