When people think about domestic abuse, they often picture a male abuser and a female victim. But the truth is, abuse can happen in any kind of relationship – including same sex relationships. At Juno, we understand that abuse in same sex relationships can be more hidden, and that survivors may face unique challenges. We want you to know: if this is your experience, you are not alone, and we are here to help.
Abuse Doesn’t Discriminate
Domestic abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of gender, sexuality, background or lifestyle. In same sex relationships, abuse can look very similar to abuse in heterosexual relationships – it can involve physical violence, emotional manipulation, controlling behaviour, sexual abuse, or financial control.
But there are also differences that can make it harder for survivors in same sex relationships to speak out or seek help. For example, someone might threaten to “out” their partner to family, friends, or an employer if they tell anyone about the abuse. Others might use their partner’s sexuality as a weapon, saying things like “no one will believe you,” or “everyone will turn against you.”
Why It’s Often Hidden
Sadly, domestic abuse in same sex relationships is often underreported. This can be for many reasons, including fear of being judged, not being believed, or feeling isolated. Some women worry they won’t be taken seriously or that services won’t understand their situation.
Sometimes, survivors have already faced discrimination or rejection in other parts of their lives – and the thought of facing more, even from support services, can feel overwhelming. At Juno, we understand these fears. That’s why we work hard to create a safe, welcoming space where every woman feels accepted, heard, and supported.
What Abuse Might Look Like
Every relationship is different, and abuse can take many forms. In same sex relationships, some examples of abuse include:
- Your partner controlling how you dress or act in public
- Threats to reveal your sexual orientation
- Being isolated from your family or told not to see friends
- Verbal insults that target your identity
- Financial abuse or refusing to share money fairly
- Using children or shared property as a way to control you
Abuse is never your fault, and no one deserves to be treated this way.
How Juno Can Help
We know that domestic abuse in same sex relationships can be more complex. Our friendly and supportive team is trained to understand the unique experiences you might be going through. Some of our staff are survivors themselves, so they truly understand what it’s like to feel scared, confused, or ashamed.
At Juno, you will never be judged for who you are or who you love. We believe in listening, believing, and supporting you every step of the way. Whether you need advice, emergency accommodation, or someone to talk to, we are here.
We offer:
- Confidential advice and emotional support
- Safe places to stay if you need to leave home
- Help with safety planning
- Support around housing, benefits, legal issues, and more
- Services that are LGBTQ+ inclusive and sensitive
Final Thoughts
Abuse in same sex relationships is real, and it’s okay to ask for help. At Juno, we understand how difficult and complex it can be – and we are here for you. You don’t have to go through this alone. Reach out to us when you’re ready. We will listen, we will believe you, and we will help.
Juno Support
Our helpline is staffed 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year by friendly, supportive, and non-judgemental staff. You’re not alone — we’re here to help whenever you need us.
Calls to our helpline are free from landlines and mobile phones within the UK and do not appear on itemised bills. There is no pressure and everything is confidential.
Helpline: 0808 800 0340
Sometimes our helpline is busy and you might not get through the first time, so please try again. We will always call you back if you leave a message stating it is safe to do so and if you leave us a safe contact number in your message.
If you are hearing impaired, text “Relay/NGT” to 18001 0808 800 0340. This option is available 24-hours a day, 365 days a year.
You can also email us on [email protected] 9 am – 9 pm.
Please note, we may not be able to respond to emails straight away, but will try to reply within 24 hours.
National Help
If you’re further afield, you could contact other charities like Women’s Aid, who have instant messaging and email contact on their website: https://www.womensaid.org.uk/
The National Domestic Abuse Helpline (0808 2000 247) also provide confidential support. They can help you make a safety plan, find safe housing, and access legal protections.
The deaf health charity Signhealth also runs a domestic abuse support service, DeafHope, using British Sign Language (BSL).
The Survivor’s Trust (for sexual abuse and assault support) – www.thesurvivorstrust.org